I stick to the core of who I am...

I had been with a not so unusual "issue" with kinsfolk whom I can boldly say got no better things to do. Of course I have said kinsfolk, meaning family issues and if I might add, I come from a big clan so you could just imagine myriad of opinions, alliances left and right, different dramas and brouhahas from tangled statements. Believe me, it's nothing new.

Though these scenarios are as old as the hills. At the end of the day, there's learning. And here's mine:

****No insult could put a REAL good person down. Yes. Definitely. No matter how these "aggrieved" relatives bombarded me with their callow SMS messages (while playing it low in FB where I acquiescently push some buttons) it didn't get into me. In fact, it gave me a good laugh that would maybe last for weeks.

****People, relative or not, who'd been through a lot with you would love you even during the times that you incurred "temporary insanity". They would even understand when you finally pushed back and they would say "It's about time!"

****There are people who would shower you with motivational quotes and encouragement and words of wisdom but will not get at the bottom of things. They will simply walk out and will just let you "handle things on your own".

****There are people who couldn't and wouldn't shut up.Even if you've already done them good, they would end up putting you "on the spot".

****There are people who will blame you for helping out in saving a life because you didn't help them with their business.


Just as Oprah always say ---> Different strokes from different folks. And speaking of Oprah, she never cease to amaze me but I was particularly struck when she said: 'There are times when you feel it is right for you to tell your narrative. If you feel comfortable, go ahead. But for as long as you are on the side of truth, go ahead.'


Well, this is me feeling comfortable. And I know I am on the side of truth. And so I will say my piece for two reasons. First, I am doing this for my mom. None of my mom's siblings are getting any younger. But almost none of them changed their wicked ways over the years. A few weeks back, an uncle almost died because of illness. This Uncle of mine told my aunt to inform my mom about it. This Aunt said yes and claimed that she did but didn't even bother telling my mom. My Uncle felt bad and had negative thoughts about my mom, up to the extent that he thought my mom wouldn't even care if he died. This was discovered by my sister and boy my sister discovered a lot!

And that brings me to the second reason. These relatives claimed that it was our family who didn't accept my cousin's partner during our April 2010 Reunion. I was dog-tired during that reunion. From preparation to the actual event. I didn't entertain any negativity that day and even after that event. I don't and will never discriminate a family member or their chosen partner, much more behind people's back. I am quite known by my family and friends to be BRUTALLY FRANK.

So I can tell anything I would like to say to anyone's face. I really hate that gossip because I particularly love that cousin and I am happy that the woman he is with helped him straighten his ways. So damn these people who couldn't contain their insecurities and then let other people take the blame.

Now for you my dear cousins and Aunt....This is me telling you...Stop! There's no way I am going to play your games. It's a legacy that I'm not gonna pass on to the next generation. It's not my fault if you feel you've been laughed at because you're an elephant in a swimsuit. Or you've been teased because of your deformities. For crying out loud... I DON'T FREAKIN' CARE!!! You have got to find out other ways and means to handle your insecurities other than comparing yourself to our family. Because you will never measure up. This is me not being arrogant. This is me telling you that life's like that. We can't always measure up with everybody. Comparison would do more damage than good.

I would not apologize for being myself right now. If you were hurt at some point, then maybe it's good and it just might clear your head on some issues. I have been raised to be someone who would stick to the core of who I am. And this is who I am. BLUNT. INTENSE. UNSTOPPABLE.


For those who could relate and would like details about this blog, well...sorry...I will keep mum on this if you are not directly involved on the said issues. However, I am willing to give out names. Haha!